5 ways to make you sleep better fast

Are you one of those people who thinks four hours of sleep is enough? For the clear majority of us that isn’t enough.

There are all sorts of scientific studies that cite the fact that less than five hours of sleep a night is not good for you, your overall health, or longevity. If part of your life plan is to get healthy and stay healthy, sleep must be part of that lifestyle routine.

How do we improve our sleep?

And for many reasons we aren’t sleeping very well or for long enough. So, what do we do? First find out if ‘not sleeping’ is a physical thing. Sleep apnea and other such breathing issues are very serious health conditions and should be treated by physicians and experts in the field.

After ruling out something physical out start thinking about a bedtime routine. To get yourself ready to sleep. Just as we enforce a bedtime routine for the children in our lives, so too should we make our own bedtime routine part of our lives.

One of my favourite moments as a parent was bedtime. Not because my children went to sleep like little angels. Or because I had some quiet time before I dropped exhausted into my own bed. Twilight time was special.

It began with bath time. When the dirty, grimy, sweaty little bodies were clean, and their hair was wet and slicked back and sweet. Dressed in their adorable little kid pyjamas. The lights were dimmed, and books were read. I would sing to them. It didn’t matter what song it was part of the ritual of bedtime.

Our order of things are wrong

As adults we don’t get tucked into bed much. We may get into bed, watch tv, use our laptops, notebooks or smart phones right there in bed with us. It’s no wonder most of us can’t sleep. Or sleep fitfully.

We have the order of things all wrong at the end of the day. We rev up in the evening not down. Trying to get one more thing done. Play one more game of words with friends. Scroll though a couple more Facebook pages. All activities that alert our bodies that it is not time to rest.

There is documented proof that the blue light emitted from phones and televisions and tablets all can keep us awake. So why do we invite them into our bedrooms? I think for many of us we have forgotten the function of the room with the bed in it. Sleeping, resting, or having sex.

There is nothing sexier than trying to get your partner’s attention when they are playing a game on their smartphone. (Tweet it!)

Here are five ways to sleep better fast:

RULE #1 Get the electronics out of your bedroom.

That means everything. Remember alarm clocks? They work great for waking you up and telling the time, and they don’t mess with your circadian rhythms that tell you when it’s time to sleep.

RULE #2 Get into a routine.

Have a bedtime that is as close to the same time every night as you can. Yes, we all have work commitments and social occasions. Deadlines and family time. Bedtime every night at the same time is a suggestion. Make your bed a haven. Keep it clear of clothes. Neaten up the room. If you don’t have energy to do this put everything in a clothes basket and put it outside the door to be dealt with another time.

RULE #3 Make your pre-bedtime as luxurious as possible.

A shower with a soothing scented soap. Some suggestions although the sense of smell is so subjective for each of us. You might try, Lavender, Chamomile, Bergamot, Jasmine, Rose and Sandalwood. Sip tea with the same calming vibe in mind.

RULE #4 Read something interesting.

(Not on your tablet or smartphone). And this needs to have nothing to do with your work. Listen to some music (not from your phone) or a podcast, comedy show, white noise set the mood. Keep lights low and let yourself unwind. If you share a bed or bedroom, try to get your partner to do this with you.

RULE #5 Make lists.

Keep a pad and pen (not your smartphone), and if you are stuck on a thought or making lists in your head of things you didn’t accomplish, write it down. Write a to do list or jot down what’s bothering you. Start bullet journaling and just get those nagging thoughts out of your head, down on paper, and then put it in a drawer or under your bed or turn the pad over on the bedside table.

We do not make good decisions when we are not well rested. Everything is harder to deal with when we are looking through bleary over strained eyes. You deserve a good night’s sleep. Tuck yourself in gently tonight and be kind to yourself. Le me know how it goes.

Now over to you: Can you relate to some of this? What is your best bedtime routine? Let me know in my Facebook community.

 

 

 

 

Exercise and environment: Overcoming insomnia after a loved one passes

Exercise and Environment: Overcoming Insomnia After a Loved One Passes | Tamara Mendelson

The following blog post is a guest blog post by Sara Bailey, founder of Thewidow.net
“If you’ve suffered the loss of someone close to you, you know how profoundly impactful such a loss can be. You also know it takes time to heal, time to regain your strength and the will to carry on. One of the best ways to regain physical and mental strength is to get the sleep you need, at least 7 to 9 hours a night, which is far easier said than done when you’re bereaved.

Insomnia is frequently a symptom of grief, and overcoming it can be extremely difficult because you’re coping with tremendous feelings of loss, isolation, depression and even guilt. Overcoming insomnia can be difficult, but there are techniques that can help relax the body and keep your mind from racing.

Exercise

One of the best ways to get to sleep at night is to do plenty of exercise during the day. The idea is to tire yourself out so sleep is inevitable, and you can get back into a normal pattern of sleeping and waking. Take care not to overdo it and risk injury. It doesn’t make sense to start doing exercises you’ve never tried before, so stick with walking or hiking to get your heartbeat up and get plenty of sunlight, which will help restore a natural sleep pattern. Try to get at least 30 minutes of exercise every day, but avoid doing so after 7 p.m. and avoid caffeine and other stimulants at night.

Establish a sleep-conducive space

Make sure your bedroom is only used for sleep and storing your clothes. If you’re accustomed to watching television in the bedroom, consider removing it and any other electronic devices with screens, which emit a form of blue light that will trick the brain into thinking it’s daylight and time to get up. Clear out the clutter, remove any objects that exacerbate your depression, and make sure the space is completely dark with a temperature setting of no higher than 68 degrees. Add some scented candles (nothing too overpowering, though), and consider repainting the walls a soothing pastel or earth tone shade (stay away from bright red and sunshine yellow) to give you a fresh start in a room you shared with a loved one for years.

Bodywork

If you need to find a way to relax your body, consider getting a massage on a regular basis or learning yoga, a mental/physical discipline that relaxes the muscles and makes a healing mind-body connection. Some people overcome sleep deprivation through acupuncture, an ancient therapy that uses tiny needles to stimulate nerves and relax muscles.

Wind-down time

One of the mistakes insomniacs often make is to hop right in bed and expect to fall asleep. This haphazard approach often makes the situation worse, and you may lie there staring at the ceiling wondering why sleep doesn’t come. Instead, take a different approach… Start winding down about a half-hour before bedtime by doing some deep-breathing exercises or meditation – some sort of activity that helps calm your thoughts and allows tightened muscles to start unkinking.

Remember, the idea is to avoid tossing and turning at all costs. Some people have success taking a hot bath or shower before going to bed, which elevates the heart rate and then slows it down after you get out and start cooling off.

Good gadgets

There are a number of ways technology can help you get to sleep. For less than $20, you can get an LED Sleep-Enhancing Light, or find a Dodow, a metronome with a light system that makes you sleepy, for about $60. There are many kinds of therapeutic pillows that enhance your comfort as well. Avoid leaving the TV on all night thinking the background noise will do the trick – it’s much more likely to keep you awake.

Sleep deprivation is a common response to grief. Your mind has a lot to process, and it takes time to find effective coping strategies. Exercise and a healthy sleep environment are your best assets during this difficult time and can help you wind down in a natural way.”

Be kind to yourself.

Now over to you: Have you ever suffered from sleep deprivation due to grief?

And if you need someone to talk to, I’m here for you.

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